Accountability is Needed
By the Rt. Rev. David Anderson
Recently, I have been thinking
about accountability, authority and discipline. Not discipline in a harsh
sense, but discipline in the sense of having fences and walls that define
distance and relationships, expectations and behavior, and that protect more
than punish those concerned.
I have been blessed with an intelligent
and perceptive wife. Throughout my preaching career she listened to what I said
from the pulpit and occasionally would ask me about something I said. Her
questions often helped me explore an idea further and better develop or drop it
if necessary.
Only once did she bring up a
particular sermon illustration and say to me, "You will never use that
example again." I never did, and in fact I have forgotten what it was.
As a father of a family, I believe the man should take the
leadership role in consultation with his wife and, to a lesser degree, everyone
else who is affected. Since all five in my family have dominant personalities,
there was never really a loose football; everyone was willing and ready to
lead. For this reason, decisions were nearly always by consensus. Our family
was part of a larger, intact, functional family, and so there were aunts,
uncles and cousins who all played a part in a system of accountability.
Unfortunately, not everyone has this advantage. Where it is lacking, a family
should try to create a system of support and accountability, sometimes to
protect themselves from themselves...Read more.
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